When I was starting out training in Chado (The Way of Tea), I felt all thumbs and two left feet. I couldn't figure out which foot I should step in with first when entering and exiting the tea room. Do I clean the tea whisk or the tea scoop first? Which bow—casual, semi formal or formal—do I use and when?…Read More
Before you even say the word, aloha, you have to feel it. But what is it?
“Aloha… to learn what is not said, to see what cannot be seen, and to know the unknowable.” So said Queen Liliuokalani….Read More
Two and a half years ago, I wrote a blogpost entitled “Training for Death”. I started it with this quote: “Under duress, we do not rise to our expectations – we fall to the level of our training.”
I thought of this quote again last week, at a women’s circle I go to in Oakland full of extraordinary, tough and jolly women. It came to me after I had disintegrated into tears during a round of check-ins.Read More
This is not a post about blue-pilling and red-pilling. a cynical look at marriage as a way that some of us stay asleep or enslaved to consumption, procreation and social control. (Though, that would make for an intriguing post, wouldn’t it?)
Nope, this is pretty straightforward: It’s an explanation of my matrix of the four things I think a marriage (or any committed, lifelong relationship) needs in order to last.Read More
Shoken Michael Stone had a way of looking at me with his clear seeing hawk eyes that made me squirm. For me, being his student meant being forced to face discomfort and my own unending awkwardness as a young meditator and yogi.Read More
When I cue a Vrse film on my phone and pop it into a Google Cardboard Virtual Reality viewer, I enter a new world that is slow, sumptuous and filled with wonder. Like a dream, it’s enveloping and satisfying. I enter a world I don’t want to leave.Read More
“Under duress, we do not rise to our expectations – we fall to the level of our training.” I heard this quote from Sifu Bruce Lee last night at a meditation sit in San Francisco with Anushka Fernandopulle. Anushka shared it in the context of cultivating one of the 7 qualities of Awakening enumerated in Buddhism (Buddhists love numbered lists): upekkha, or equanimity.Read More
I have not yet chronicled my challenge finding a sangha (spiritual community) in the Bloomington area and the learning I’m deriving from it. Here are some topline take-aways.Read More
I saw a magnificent thing on the way home from yoga class: the biggest, grandest, most heavily fruit bearing mulberry tree I’ve ever seen in my life.
I am known to pick a berry.Read More
A few weeks ago, I learned about an amazing listserve. All of the movers and shakers of the progressive movement, Millennials and X-ers, are on it (like, 700 of them). A lot of my superiors at work are on it. There were threads about self-driving cars before it was even on the news. And lots of inside baseball. It felt awesome to be invited to join. I ravenously consumed all the emails coming through the list into my Inbox. But within a week, on Friday, I had unsubscribed.Read More
I was biking down the B-Line, an old rail trail now for bikes and running, Wednesday afternoon, enjoying the first rays of spring sun. It was the kind of weather where it’s just cold enough that you still need a jacket, but if you move enough, you can do without the hat and gloves and maybe even get a little sweaty.
As I reached the end of the paved part of the trail, which runs north-south, I turned east to feel the afternoon sun on my back. It was delicious.Read More